Topic 12.1. The Essentials of Good Decision Making

The Essentials of Good Decision Making

YOU have to decide

For most of us who cannot resolve things, it is because we have not accepted that we have to decide. Any time you decide on something, you have to give something up. Decisions become paralysing, because we are unwilling to sustain the grief. Basically, a decision means to cut something away. This does not mean it diminishes your happiness, it means being happy with the fact that you finally made a choice and you’re willing to stick with it until you succeed.

The critical decisions are made without knowing the outcome

Think of the mythical stories such as the Hobbit, Star Wars and Harry Potter. Heroes and heroines are reluctant and almost always do not know the way. Decisions require courage. Life is a refining process that calls us to be better people. Or, we could avoid the decisions and continue to live our lives drifting along like clouds in the wind, blown in every direction without a guide or plan.

True decisions require that we do all that we can to make our goals happen. Go to any length.

Hoping is the beginning to desire to change
Wishing is having a moderate desire to change
Wanting is having a high desire to change
Weathering is committing to make it happen
Go to any length, using every possible advantage for success.

The critical decision in life is to decide to come to your own

assistance.

Ask yourself,

‘Am I worthwhile enough to fight for?’

‘Is mine a life worth breathing?’

Is it much more than the will to survive?

It is about your willingness to come to your own assistance?

Everything depends on it.

What are the family messages you were told that interfere with coming to your own assistance? Loyalty to the family secrets? Not being good enough? Seeking comfort in dreams or the past without living in the present? Perfectionism? Not deciding simply creates suffering, prolonged agony, squanders away opportunities and talent and makes you vulnerable to addiction and depression. Life is hard enough without adding the unfinished.