Topic 10.10. Family

FAMILY

When Your Thoughts Control You

Your have loads of baggage from a bad childhood and you carry this into your adulthood

Your mind is filled with bad memories about the way that you feel you were neglected, abandoned or abused. You live in a world of fear and blame, and you see no way to break free from this crazy, vicious cycle. You seem to fail constantly, as you always go back to the ‘bad tapes’ in your head.

The thought of having a family scares you

You are terrified that you will make the same mistakes that your parents did; that you will bear the weight of your past, and pass it on to those around you. You think about your bad past experiences and fear that you will not be able to do anything different to what you experienced. You fear that your family will harbor bad feelings about you, the way you did about your family during your childhood.

When You Control Your Thoughts

In spite of what has happened, you live consciously to be free from baggage

You know that the people in your life did their best at the time. You have allowed yourself to move past the baggage of years gone by and see yourself as who you are now. You know that whoever says that you have to let your past define you is incorrect.

You have fulfilling, thriving relationships with your family members

When you have decided to change your circumstances, let go of anger, forgive, and learn new ways of dealing with your family, you are progressing. You see the chain needs to be broken somewhere along the line and you have the chance to be the first to have an amazing relationship with your family and can leave that as a legacy.

What this means for your Family Life

Family is part of our sacred agreement. Our family members are the ones we are the most connected with throughout our childhood, where our habits, beliefs, programming and patterns are formed. Our family gives us our roots, our sense of belonging, purpose, who we believe we are, and insulates us from the challenges of the world. When you are able to leave the legacy of a strong family, with little to no regrets, you are bringing your family relationships into a new place where it may never have been had you not decided to stop the cycle and change your patterns of behaviour. Maintaining strong, productive family relations nurtures you.

Cultivate close, loving, family relationships.

Forgive anyone who has hurt you and seek their forgiveness.

Acknowledge each other for the things that you do well.

Do not sabotage each other.